Julie Motz's theory of an emotional universe
The COMPREHENDER is most at ease with understanding, synthesizing, putting information into context, seeing every side of every question, getting perspective on the "big" picture. Because his favorite emotions are pain and satisfaction - the ones most associated with tears - he is often considered "emotional."
Comprehenders are perpetual students with a particular fondness for history although they often act in an a-historical manner. That is to say every day is a "new" day for them. In each relationship they swear that they've never felt anything like this before - and at that moment they believe it.
Comprehenders are the great chameleons among the types. They often look at the system and say, "Well, I could be any one of those." They also have the capacity to be great salesmen and very versatile actors. They are the world's cheerleaders, giving encouragement to others when self-doubt sets in.
They move their shoulders back and forth alternatingly when they walk. The men tend to have broad shoulders, narrow hips and skinny legs about which they can be very self-conscious. The women incline towards prominent derrieres about which they are similarly shy.
The emotion Comprehenders are most eager to avoid is FEAR so they often retreat into CONTEMPT in order not to experience it. This leaves them hanging out energetically in their bones and their tendons. Consequently their energy is pulled in and they seem to have no clear outline to their bodies or sense of physical boundaries.
Their second least favorite feeling is ANGER which they disguise with DESPERATION.
They are natural pursuers when it comes to courting. If they passively allow a Perceiver to seek them out the connection rarely holds. Sexually they are also natural initiators.
Comprehenders crave respect and fear being abandoned - so much so that they ofter walk out of a relationship just to keep this from happening.
Comprehenders seek Perceivers as heterosexual partners and Performers as homosexual partners.
Their mothers are Connectors and their fathers are Performers.
Henry VIII (Henry Tudor)
George W, BUsh
Charles Windsor, Prince of Wales
Bllie Jean King
Cynthia Nixon (Miranda in Sex and the City)
COMPREHENDER Countries and Cultures
Korea (North and South)
Jews (but NOT Israelis)
DISTINGUISHING QUALITIES OF THE FOUR TYPES
In addition to the emotions they show, the emotions they hide and the defenses they use each type has other distinguishing characteristics - physical, emotional and mental.
The PERCEIVER, most at ease with taking in information, is often seen as "unemotional" because the activity of perception is such a mainstay of western culture that the feelings fueling it go virtually unnoticed. He has to be very excited or very frightened about what he is perceiving for people to credit him with having a feeling about it.
He loves to put things in categories and sub-categories because making fine distinctions - seeing with great clarity - is second nature to him.
He appears to be slow to anger and will argue long and patiently, trying to get you to see his point of view before finally exploding.
Because energetically he is usually in his nerves or his skin he seems to have clear outlines to his body.
When he walks he swings his hips back and forth - the classic runway walk for Perceiver women.
In courtship he is the pursued, not the pursuer. If he chooses the opposite role he does so defensively and does not make wise romantic choices. Sexually, too, he starts out in the passive role unless he has been wounded in this area and the waiting makes him feel too anxious.
The emotion he is most eager to avoid is PAIN.
His second least favorite feeling is NEED. He would rather feel "humiliated" than admit to hinself that he needs something from someone.
He craves affection and is most afraid of being ignored.
If you pay a Perceiver a compliment he will usually respond by giving you information about whatever it is you've remarked favorably upon.
Perceivers are heterosexually attracted to Comprehenders and homosexually attracted to Connectors.
They have Performer mothers and Connector fathers.
Franklin Delano Roosevelt
Mary Stuart, Queen of Scots
Sarah Jessica Parker
PERCEIVER Countries and Cultures
The PERFORMER is most at ease with acting, doing, making something happen. As with the Perceiver he is often thought - even by himself - to be "unemotional" because "Don't just stand there - DO something" is the underlying motto of western society. The emotions which allow him to act - anger and desire - are therefore not observed to be emotions at all unless he is experiencing them in the extreme. So we say about a Perfomer, "He knows what he wants" (desire) or "She's quick to defend herself" (anger) instead of "this person is easily in touch with the emotions of desire and anger."
Performers have an intense sense of justice and are usually regarded by others as impartial and fair. The have a sense of duty which makes them the typical "good samaritans," always willing to pull over and help out if there's an accident. They're also generally considered straightforward and honest. Their eyes have a "hard" quality that makes you feel they are boring into you.
They are extremely quick-tempered and hate to be criticized although they are very free with their criticism of others.
Performers move their shoulders up and down (left up and right down, then vice versa) - the classic "pimp strut" for the men.
The emotion Performers are most eager to avoid is NEED.
Their second least favorite feeling is PAIN.
Like Peceivers they also appear to have clear outlines, radiating most of their energy from muscles and tendon. But they appear more angular with many of the women having almost no indentation at the waist.
Performers are the natural pursuers when it comes to courting. If they sit around waiting to be asked they usually end up with the wrong person because this is not a vulnerable role for them. But sexually they are receivers, not initiators - at least in the beginning.
The Performer craves acceptance and is most afraid of being excluded.
Performers are heterosexually attracted to Connectors, and homosexually attracted to Comprehenders.
Their mothers are Perceivers and their fathers are Comprehenders.
Elizabeth I of England
John Adams, 2nd President of the United States
Harry S. Truman
George H.W. Bush
John F. Kennedy
Kristin Davis (Charlotte in Sex and the City)
Kristen Scott Thomas
PERFORMER Countries and Cultures
THE EMOTIONS OF THE PERSONALITY TYPES
TISSUE THEY OCCUPY
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SEXUAL PATTERNS OF THE FOUR TYPES
Each type moves through all four feeling states and all eight emotions during sexual intercourse in order to reach orgasm. They start with their most accessible emotion and end with their most vulnerable or inaccessible emotion.
Here is the order of emotions for each type:
PERCEIVER: excitement, fear, need, love, desire, anger, pain, satisfaction.
RESPONDER: desire, anger, pain, satisfaction, excitement, fear, need, love.
COMPREHENDER: satisfaction, pain, anger, desire, love, need, fear, excitement.
CONNECTOR: love, need, fear, excitement, satisfaction, pain, anger, desire.